NO ONE MAN SHOULD HAVE ALL THAT POWER
Domestic violence doesn't effect women and children alone. One out of every fourteen men has been physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, partner, boyfriend/girlfriend or date at some point in their lives. Physical and verbal abuse are more common for male victims whereas domestic violence for women is a more multi-faceted epidemic. Most relationships in which domestic violence occurs are escalating and present themselves in one of four ways: Physical/Sexual Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Verbal/Psychological Abuse, and Economic/Financial Abuse.
Physical/Sexual Abuse - The abuser's physical attack or aggressive behavior can range from bruising to murder. It often begins with what is excused as trivial contacts that escalate into more frequent and serious attacks.
- hitting, slapping, punching, kicking
- damaging valuable/personal property or throwing objects at a victim
- refusing medical care or hiding medications belonging to a victim
- pressuring or forcing a partner to use substances (e.g. drugs, alcohol)
- use of weapons, including improvised objects (e.g. a lamp or string)
- forcing a partner to perform sexual acts against their will, including having sex with other people, imitate pornography
- pursuing sexual activity when the victim is not fully conscious, is not asked, or is afraid to say no
- hurting their partner physically during sex or assaulting genitals
- coercing a partner to have sex without protection against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases
Emotional/Verbal/Psychological Abuse - The abuser's psychological or mental violence can include anything that impacts the mental health and well being of their partner.
- name calling, insults, put downs
- crazy making, blaming the victim for everything
- jealousy, unfounded accusations of cheating
- shaming, humiliation
- socially isolating the victim from friends and family
- getting angry if a victim does not immediately return calls
- needing to know where the victim is at all times
- following the victim without their knowledge
Economic/Financial Abuse - Any behavior that maintains power and control over finances constitutes financial abuse.
- controlling financial assets and effectively putting the victim on an allowance or denying them funds all together.
- causing a partner to lose their job through direct and indirect means, including: physical abuse that removes them from work environment
- causing visible bruising or injury that prevent the victim from going out in public
- showing up and harassing the victim at work
- withholding transportation
- damaging a partner's credit score
SIGNS THAT YOU'RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
- 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
- Women ages 20 to 24 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.
- 60% of domestic violence incidents happen at home.
- 40% of families headed by law enforcement experience domestic violence.
- Women are more likely to be killed by an intimate partner than men.
- 1 in 3 women homicide victims are killed by their current or former partner.
- Every year, more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes.
- Most domestic violence incidents are never reported.
via Safe Horizon
Per the statistics, whether you are aware or not, you know a victim. Remaining silent on this issue can be the difference between life and death, so be their voice.
24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)