HOW TO BE GRATEFUL YEAR-ROUND
Being full of thanks? Of course, we all know that this is an important concept around Thanksgiving-or should I say the winter holidays, but this concept should be important to us constantly, year-round. We brainstorm wonderful things to say to loved ones, gifts to give, and for some, quotes to post on Twitter and Instagram – I’m guilty of it too. Aside from prayer, and Thanksgiving speeches, I have to work hard to properly show my loved ones, I am thankful for them.
I can only speak for myself, but days after Thanksgiving, my need to be a better friend, daughter, sister, etc. begins to wear off, from the way that I imagined myself being and acting on Thanksgiving night. Yes, I would always like to remain a good communicator, support system, and family member to my loved ones, but life and a lack of in-your-face initiative prevents me from remaining consistent with those goals. I don’t feel as though I’m being selfish or insensitive, I just think that when goals or something outside a daily routine doesn’t keep a busy person such as myself on track, that keeping in touch, gets side swept. Yes, excuses are tools of the incompetent, but when you are an adult, busy, and ambitious, while having things like text messaging, email, and social networks, to help you keep tabs and upkeep a pseudo relationship with people, the phone calls and face-to-face meetings just become less and less.
I absolutely love every person in my life and am constantly grateful that they allow me to keep me in theirs. So now to just better be a better, more consistent person, I tell myself the moment I feel the urge to make contact with a loved one, to just go on and do it, and not to wait. There will never be a better time, and if there is, contact them! To be a just a wee bit more real with my people, I, now, write bits in my calendar or notes in my phone to remind me to contact people I love. I also make it a point, now, to free myself up to physically spend time with people, each week. Whether it be a quick lunch, a gift-drop off, inviting them to join another circle of mine – if they’re that type of friend, or just going to visit them. After the visit, I scold myself for not doing it sooner. On the other end, I am in high spirits because I remember all of the reasons why I love that person, why they are in my life, and how much I enjoyed myself with them. It makes it all the more great when you realize that the feeling is reciprocal.
We hear all the time; “life is too short,” “make sure people know you love them,” “never take anyone for granted,” and “you can’t do it all alone.” Sometimes we get so stuck on ourselves, how much we have to do, how little sleep we’ve gotten, how our work and school days are so jam-packed, but we forget that our loved ones care, they can relieve the constant hustle and bustle, they are busy themselves too. We should all be more thankful that they are alive for their own sakes and our own, because everybody needs somebody, and if a person is truly a loved one, they, in a way, shaped and helped you get to where you are and who you’ve become. Why not thank them, by simply keeping in touch?