THE IMPORTANCE OF VULNERABILITY
There is nothing worse than feeling exposed and in the hands of others. Vulnerability has a way of making you feel that way but it’s important to express yourself, for you and your loved ones.
It has always been a struggle for me to let people into my heart because I have the fear of not being understood, being judged, and ultimately being taken for granted. I’ve had my fair share of heartbreak and disappointment, which isn’t the most pleasant feeling, so I like to keep all my feelings inside and not share them at all. It’s like I have a bottle with all my feelings and emotions that I threw into the ocean for no one to find. The problem with this characteristic is it’s extremely unhealthy and unfair to my loved ones. I’m learning to express these emotions but only to people that deserve to know these emotions. Everyone isn’t worthy to know my feelings because it can be used as a weapon for attack. I learned that the hard way.
To be vulnerable is to take down that shield of protection that I have tightly screwed around my heart and bare it to the individuals that I hold true to my heart. Now being vulnerable does not mean to tell your deepest and darkest spirit but simply say or do what you are feeling. Vulnerability is not always expressed through words but by actions, too. Calling someone first is vulnerability because you are showing that the person was on your mind and you didn’t want to for them to call you; it shows that you miss them.
In my process to being vulnerable, I’ve learned that it is not fair to my loved ones or myself to not express my feelings. I have to be vulnerable with myself to be vulnerable with others. I have to acknowledge my feelings first so that people will know that they are genuine and pure. So this holiday season share laughter, love, and gifts but most importantly share your spirit with someone that deserves to know you inner beauty. Your feelings are beautiful because they are connected to your soul and heart and that is beauty at its finest. Express them wisely but nonetheless, express yourself. I know it’s scary but take that fear and do it anyway. Show your heart to the ones you love and be genuine while doing it.