TAKING CARE OF WHAT GOD HAS GIVEN ME
change in one's way of life resulting from penitence or spiritual conversion
I recently made a decision, a conscious decision to own my current situation and operate from gratitude and not lack. My grandfather always delivered a anecdote about the man who complained about his shoes until he met the man who had no feet. I have a bad habit of not knowing how good I have it. Why I continue to receive blessings and favor despite my perspective? I don't know, but I figured I better straighten u before I ruin a good thing.
1. My Temple
I was born 23 years ago in perfect health. That statement alone is more than most can say. Since 1991 I've never had a medical scare outside of the usual asthma attack, ear infection, or sports related injury. Fast forward to 2015, I haven't worked out regularly since High School, I'm a budding ice cream aficionado, and although I say I don't drink I pour up more and more often. As a believer in everlasting life, I am not taking care of the one thing I know is temporary: my temple. Why? Because my clothes still fit. What a poor excuse right? I haven't been forced out of my comfort zone to the point of splitting seams and muffin tops enough to get my act together. I am able-bodied and young. I'm not investing in myself and making the necessary sacrifices that will serve me another 23 years from now in mind, body, or spirit.
Be Whole With Me - Resource: Workouts and Recipes
2. My Circle
They say that if you have one true friend in life you're lucky. Now, I think they're Debbie Downers but I get the gist. I am fortunate enough to have a tight circle of phenomenal, ambitious, gorgeous, and unapologetically Black young women in my corner. They encourage me, inspire me, and challenge me. My problem is I don't answer my phone. EVER. Simply put, I'm not a phone person. Whenever I'm chatting it up I find that I can't multi-task so I screen calls like Sallie Mae is on the other line. I used to pride myself on being the go-to girl. I may not talk to you all the time (text me, girl!) but if you need something I will show up. Being there for someone is an important pillar in any relationship but so is companionship. Not everyone needs saving and with the women I roll with chances are they're gonna have their shit together or be managing relatively well. I prefer in person bonding and will sit up with you until the sun rises so that just means I need to gas up Kim K (my Honda) and start doing drive-bys. I miss my sisters and their divine energy.
Be Social With Me - Resource: 25 Things To Do With Your Friends
3. My Green
I got a couple past due bills, I won't get specific. I got a problem with spending before I get it. We all self conscious I'm just the first to admit it. Really, I don't have past due bills but I do have a bitty problem with spending at times, I can be self-conscious and I'm admitting it. Every few months I save a little money and thanks to the Wells Fargo app, a log-in and click later my savings is drained because I saw something that I couldn't refuse. I'm on ebay buying up ALL the vintage HBCU gear and Black movie memorabilia. If I can't figure out what to wear for an outing I'll consider shopping for an all new getup and then I won't even take pictures because I'm not on insta like that. Why? Because I like presenting well. I have a never let them see you sweat approach to life. It has both helped and hindered me. Words have power and part of always presenting the best of myself keeps me focused on the positive but on the other hand I try way too hard for people who already accept me. I need to grow up and start saving money like a real adult instead of flexing offline like somebody is checking for me.
Gain With Me - Resource: 10 Personal Finance Tips
4. My Purpose
I pray for purpose every. single. night. I don't expect a clear answer just that my steps be ordered. I work hard but when not having weekends and regular business hours grows old I get to bitching like the next girl that has never really known struggle. I don't know why I am here and what my ultimate purpose and assignment is but I know I have battled making peace with where I am versus what I thought I would be doing with my life. Now, if you ask me what I'm passionate about my answer is going to be "being Black." My current field is easily the most marginalized for women and minorities. Why am I not thrilled with the idea of opening doors for others who have a heart for service and community? I need to let go of the reigns and understand fully that if the sum of my life were determined by my decision making, and not the higher power who already knows how my story ends, my life would be in shambles. Point. Blank. Period.
Be Driven With Me - Resource: 10 Daily Mantras
5. My Roots
La Familia. Nobody is perfect so consequently my family is no exception but they are a true support system for me. But before I get too sentimental when I say family I mean my heritage. I have the distinct pleasure of belonging to the Fulani people of West Africa notably: Nigeria and Mali. As a Black person I take pride in and guard my Blackness but not my history. I don't know as much as I should especially since I consider myself to be educated. What does it really mean to say I've reached a thorough understanding of stolen history, misplaced credit and repackaged ancient concepts? I'm new to the #staywoke team but I get that knowledge of self is much more important and valuable than any other academic pursuit. That realization is what prompted me to apply only to HBCU's in the first place but it seems that since I have left campus I have also lost sight of the bigger picture. I consider being Black an immense gift all things considered and I would not change it for the world. It's time that I take my pride and turn the pages.
Be Woke With Me - Resource: Real History